A Lesson In Finding Your Own Way

Meditation and contemplation

While in Hawaii, I hiked down to Queen’s Bath, a shallow pool of ocean water surrounded by igneous rock on the island of Kauai. But, I didn’t actually go to Queen’s Bath.

There were too many people.

Initially, when I pictured myself basking in the blue water of the tide pool, I imagined being surrounded by sweet silence save the crashing waves. I quickly realized I had not accounted for the fact that there would be other people around and laughed at myself for thinking I would find solace at one of Kauai’s most popular tourist destinations.

Instead of following the crowd, I climbed down some lava rocks and watched the life force of the ocean rush in and out of a small cove. I sat there for about ten minutes admiring the strength of nature.

Then, two young local boys ran and jumped straight into the cove as if they had no fear of being swept out into the Pacific with the strong force of the waves.

I thought, “maybe I could give it a try.”

I walked around the ledge to where the boys had jumped and that’s when I saw it: a calm jacuzzi sized pool hidden from public view. I abandoned the idea of jumping altogether (easy, because I didn’t really 100% want to in the first place) and instead submerged my body in the tranquil water of the hidden pool.

I laid down and allowed my body to float, blissfully checking out from everything and equally, connecting to all of it.

FEAR

FEAR.

It’s the reason we prevent ourselves from living out our greatest joy.

But what is it that we really fear?

Failure?

No.

Embarrassment?

No.

Our own light?

YES.

For so long, I’ve denied myself my own inner light— always valuing the opinions and expectations of others before my own, not pursing a goal because of what someone else might think of me, constantly worrying that I am not ready or I don’t have all I need.

So why are we so afraid of our own light?

If we choose the path of living out our greatest potential, it means doing things we’ve never done before. And believing things we’ve never believed before.

Especially about ourselves.

But, if we want to make a difference, if we want to serve, if we want to give and receive love openly, we have to believe we’re worthy. We have to believe we’re powerful. We have to believe we have what it takes!

And we do have what it takes.

But the mind often tells a different story.

And when this happens, we suffer and suffer because we continually listen to that inner chatter that tells us we can’t be or do something. We make up all sorts of excuses and stories as to why the life we want to live won’t work. And then sometimes, we even go as far as believing these stories!

In Sanskrit, this is called living out Maya, or illusion. Living things that were born in our minds out of fear.

So I urge you to get out of your head.

Get quiet and listen to the whispers of the heart.

And then, follow that whisper.

Because you are enough. You have all that you need. And the world needs your light.

This is me extending my hand to you. You no longer need to be afraid.

All you have to do is take a step forward.

Will you do it?

The choice is all yours.

SHINE ON

 

XX,

Mary

 

 

Stop Spinning: Get Grounded

When we’re too action oriented, we tend to get stuck in the mind. We get so wrapped up in our to-do lists and all of the other things going on inside of our heads, that we lose sight of what’s important. When we live in a state of mental stress, the body goes into fight or flight mode, which then kicks the nervous system into overdrive. And if this state persists for a prolonged period of time, physical conditions may arise— breakouts, anxiety, hair loss, depression, etc.

And here’s the kicker about living in a state of mental stress: you thought your way there, but there’s no thinking your way out. When life has you spinning, the best thing you can do for yourself is to get grounded; to return awareness to the physical body.

Put your feet on the Earth.

THE CURE

  1. Get your feet on the Earth. Your bare naked feet. This practice is known as “Earthing,” and before you write if off as hippy-dippy, there is science to back it up. The Journal of Environmental Public Health says:

    “It is an established, though not widely appreciated fact, that the Earth’s surface possesses a limitless and continuously renewed supply of free or mobile electrons. The Earth’s negative charges can create a stable internal bioelectrical environment for the normal functioning of all body systems which may be important for setting the biological clock, regulating circadian rhythms, and balancing cortisol levels.”

    2. Tune into your 5 senses. Look around. What do you see? Now, tune into sound. What do you hear? Bring your awareness to your whole body. What do you feel? What are you smelling? What are you tasting? By tuning into your 5 senses, you are bringing awareness back to what is happening in the present moment. This is a powerful practice that takes less than 2 minutes and can be done anywhere at anytime.

    3. Hold onto an object from the Earth. A seashell, a rock, your favorite crystal. Look at it in your hands and simply observe yourself holding the object. Feel its weight, flip it over in your hands, touch its surface. Tangible practices get you out of the mind, because when you’re feeling, you’re not thinking anymore.

    4. Breathe Deeply.  The body is so intelligent that it sustains the flow of breath all day long without conscious awareness. But, by tuning into the breath, you can use it as a tool for release, purification, increasing energy, and coming back to the present moment. Begin with three deep inhales and exhales and continue for as long as you need.

    5. Sit in stillness (advanced). If you haven’t stopped moving in a while, you’ll find that this practice gets uncomfortable quickly. Do what you can to take a step back and observe the inner chatter of the mind without judgement. If you find yourself getting frustrated, don’t stop, remain seated and allow all of that mental “noise” to surface and move out. Eventually your mind will tire as you let all of the stories, and things to do. Tip: Breathing through it will help with purifying the mind.

Sometimes all we need is 5 minutes of grounding to regain balance between the mind, body, and spirit. Other times, we need an entire day to recharge and rebalance. These practices are meant to be done for as long as you need. If a practice doesn’t help you in 5 minutes, consider giving yourself 5 more, and then maybe 5 more after that.

Happy grounding!

Namaste,

Mary

August Affirmations

Wooo, July was quite an intense month.

I follow astrology so naturally, I accredited feeling “off” to the recent rough and tumble of our solar system. In July, we survived some powerful moons, solar flares, six retrogrades, and the longest eclipse of the century. Since we are of the same matter and elements as that of space, the activity going on in the sky stirs us Earthlings up too. During this time, a lot of people I’ve talked to reported feeling over emotional, fatigued, or not quite themselves.

I’m not saying it’s okay to use the chaotic state of our solar system as a scapegoat for a series of mental breakdowns, but I am saying there is something to that old adage “as above, so below.”

Enter August. A new month, full of new energy and new opportunities. July and everything that happened back then is old news. And so here we are, moving forward! The final eclipse of the summer will grace us on August 11th. We’re almost clear of eclipse season— almost! Unfortunately, we will still have to brave those inimical retrogrades, but alas, I have a plan to help us make it through! To ensure that this month feels more smooth than the last, I have compiled a list of my favorite affirmations to remain balanced, grounded, and open.

Affirmations are powerful statements that help reframe the mind to harness a more positive perspective and outlook. If you repeat them often and actually believe them, you can make some incredible life changes!

That being said, my trusty crystal and I will be riding out the retrogrades and the last wave of eclipse season together repeating, journaling, and meditating to the affirmations below:

  1. I am powerful and persistent.
  2. With clarity of mind, I feel abundance & worthiness coming through.
  3. I am in perfect balance.
  4. Today I am choosing to renew my body, mind, and spirit with a sense of wonder.
  5. I invite love, peace, and harmony to dwell in me and around me at all times.
  6. I let go of all that no longer serves me.
  7. I am in harmony with nature.
  8. I am at home in my body.
  9. I open my heart to love.
  10. I am centered peaceful, patient & calm.
  11. I have no expectations and make no assumptions.
  12. My heart is overflowing with joy.
  13. I am a vibrational match to all that I desire.
  14. I choose faith over fear.
  15. I believe in myself.
  16. I trust my inner voice.
  17. I am safe in the universe. All life loves and supports me.
  18. I am rich. Rich in kindness, love, and health.
  19. I go with the flow and feel my connection to the stream of life.
  20. I honor my commitments to myself.
  21. I am exactly where I am intended to be.
  22. I follow my bliss.
  23. I am connected to the endless love and abundance of the universe.
  24. I have the freedom and power to create the life I desire.
  25. I trust in my path as there are no wrong decisions.
  26. I live in the paradise of my own creation.
  27. I am grounded.
  28. I have everything I could ever need.
  29. I trust in Divine timing. The universe always has my back.
  30. I accept and love myself just the way I am.
  31. I am whole.

Ahhhh, don’t you feel better already?

Thought so. Follow along! I will be posting these affirmations on my Instagram story daily. @marygranola

Namaste,

Mary

Meditations for the snow

With snow comes peace and stillness. Serenity and comfort. Wonder and magic. When the clouds clear and the sun makes its debut for the first time after the snow falls, the sky seems brighter by contrast, the trees no longer look so dull, and the reflection of sunlight on the snow creates a glimmering effect. It’s just so… enchanting!

The transformation of the outside world from a dreary gray to a luminous wonderland is nature providing us with a new beginning, a blank slate, a fresh start. And the best thing to do when this happens is to set intentions with some mindfulness meditation.

Manifest your dreams

When the earth is covered in a blanket of white, everything appears to be clean and simple, making it easy to concentrate. Get quiet, think about what it is you want and use the snow as a canvas to project your ideas and desires on to. Spend some quality time with your old friend, imagination. Give life to your dreams and your dreams will become your life.

“Imagination is everything. It is the preview of life’s coming attractions.” –Albert Einstein

Connect with the stillness of your surroundings

Life slows down when it snows. Stores close, highways and roads are abandoned and people shut themselves up inside. There are virtually no distractions; the outside world is calm and still. Get out there and be one with the silence. Even if your life is cluttered with chaos, it’s impossible not to feel more at peace in such a serene space. This is because silence brings upon a sense of clarity. It helps purify your mind of head trash and allows you to focus on what really matters—the truth.

“The quieter you become, the more you are able to hear.” -Rumi

Let It All Out

Dance around your backyard. Laugh and scream and allow all of the things you’ve been silencing to be heard. Release any negative energy you’ve been holding onto. In doing so, you create space for new opportunities and ways of thinking. Don’t be afraid to get loud—it’s not like anyone else is around.

“Some things need to be let go before other things can be let in.” –Marianne Williamson

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Then, go inside and have a hot cup of tea because it’s cold and you deserve it!

Namaste,

Mary

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